During bass sectionals of a high school/college orchestra, it impressed me how often our symphony member section coaches would acknowledge the conductor's authority. Frequently, they'd give directions such as, "Use these fingerings (or bowings) unless (the conductor) says otherwise."
I thought that showed considerate deference. Later, it dawned on me that one doesn't usually get to be part of a symphony orchestra without having played for multiple conductors with varying temperaments. Our section coaches didn't tell us, "Never cross a conductor," but it wouldn't have surprised me if they'd said it that directly.
